Updated: Mar 6
successful goal setting
What’s that super cliche saying, “a goal without a plan is just a wish or idea or whatever”. I think that’s it.
As cliche as it is, it’s true. A goal without any type of plan of action or any time of steps to be taken is literally just a thought, and honey, we ain’t here for that.
Something that I have been super mindful of in this new year is being aware of any type of stagnation or complacency. I feel like 2020 was a year of really understanding how my mind works and how I can improve and adjust to further myself. I was stuck in a lot of dead end situations and dead end mindsets and played the victim to my circumstances because stagnation is sometimes easier.
It can become a habit to get stuck in stale energy and if there is anything that we have all learned, it’s that life is too fucking short for that.
I’ve gotten very clear and specific on what I am wanting to manifest and what I am wanting to achieve in the future. I’m not going to say in “2021” because lord knows we don’t need to add more pressure to her. She just needs to focus on being better than 2020. Give her a break and let her do her thang.
But moving forward I am being very, very selective on where I place my energy, who I keep around me, and the action steps that are necessary for growth on every level…Spiritual growth, financial growth, motherhood growth, career growth, etc.
So, what am I doing to make sure I hit my goals? Well, keep reading. I’m sharing my bulletproof tips and methods for success.
get to know yourself
First things first, you have to get to know yourself on a very deep and real level. Often times we think we know what we want because it’s the norm or it’s what we’ve been told we’re good at, or it’s all we known, or it’s what we have invested time and energy into. Sometimes what we’ve been doing is the exact opposite of what we should be doing.
Now, this isn’t to imply you’ve wasted your time, it is simply a thought that should encourage some soul searching. Is what you are pursing or what you are doing in line with your life’s calling? It can be hard to know what your life purpose is, trust me I know. It’s taken me about eight years to really truly understand what I’ve been called to do, even though the calling has been there since I was 16.
What does your soul call to you? What is something that brings you happiness, that your goals and ideas and wishes surround, that you’ve always wanted to do but it scared you? Nine times out of ten, that’s what you are being called to pursue and called to invest your entire being into. It doesn’t matter when you start, just go for it.
What are the qualities you like about yourself? What are qualities you want to improve?
It’s also important to understand your strengths and weaknesses. This helps you navigate through your action plan of checking off your goals.
Get super real with yourself.
If you’re easily distracted like me, be honest about it and figure out a way to counteract that. Time blocking is amazing for keeping you focused for shorter durations of time.
If you have a hard time organizing your day and prioritizing, test out a few methods. – Try tackling all of your quick and easy tasks first and save the more time consuming tasks for last. – Tackle all of your more time consuming tasks first then handle the low priority ones. – Get the tasks you don’t enjoy out of the way first…Etc.
figure out your goals
After you do a good soul search and understand yourself on a very real and honest level. It’s time to get clear on your goals and aspirations.
brain dump /
First things first, we want to do a major brain dump on all the things you want to accomplish in life. Like, your entire life. What do you want to do, what do you hope to achieve, life goals on three… one, two, three, GO!
process of elimination /
After your brain dump, we need to figure out a timeline because all of these goals matter, just maybe not right now. So, go through your list and circle every goal that would fall under the timeline of 1 month – 3 years.
After you circle those, put a star next to the goals that would fall under the timeframe of 3- 5 years.
The ones left standing without a circle or star need to be put on a vision board for the distant future :).
Now we need to go through your circled goals and figure out which ones you want to focus on for the year ahead. Working one year at a time is important. Everything you’re working on can and will lead to the goals that are further ahead, but slow and steady wins the race.
Really take into consideration not only the ones that light you up inside but which ones seem manageable and realistic. The worst thing you can do is have unrealistic goals. Seeing progress and movement, no matter how small, is what will keep you going.
Intentionally pinpoint no more that five. You can always add to it but having too much to focus on at once will be way too overwhelming which will lead to you giving up on all.
If you feel like being an overachiever, figure out some small action steps you can take for your more distant goals as well to work simultaneously.
create your plan of attack for each goal /
For each goal that you have, you need to create easy and measurable steps thats allow you to work towards it each and every day. Some people like to put timeframes on when they want to accomplish it, but I don’t like doing that personally. Pressure isn’t always good.
With your plan it’s important to make sure you strategize from daily action steps to long term action steps.
Daily steps can be difficult for certain goals. Some goals require outside input or collaboration which can cause time delays, so sometimes a daily action item is simply doing something that betters you. Read personal development, read a biography or a book written by someone in the area or field your goal is within, etc. Think outside the box of how you can gain knowledge and insight.
Remember, achieving goals requires constant development of yourself as well.
check-in every month /
Create a method or process of how you check your progress each month. Find a way to track your progress and be sure to celebrate the small wins. Take count of what’s working and what’s not and adjust accordingly.
The biggest advice I can give is to learn to be flexible and constantly adapt to whatever arises.
Goals aren’t meant to come easy. If it was easy it wouldn’t have any worth attached to it.
Bumps in the road are inevitable. Instead of seeing them as something negative, take them as a redirection and learning opportunity. Allow it to help you evolve your process and your mind. Road blocks are either divine delay, redirection, or a lesson. Nothing else. Figure out what it is and move on to your next step.
mind over matter
Last thing, always be mindful of your mindset. It’s easy to get caught up in your world and have a hard time seeing outside of it, but a negative or “lack” mindset only encourages more negativity and more feelings of scarcity.
It’s so crucial to always be aware of how you view your life’s journey. Gratitude creates abundance. It’s as simple as that.
Be proud of how far you have come, be grateful for where you are, and be excited for where you’re going.
How do you strategize your goals? How do you work towards them? Let me know in the comments!
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